Just when you think you've surmounted the littlenesses in life, you find yourself irate over something. You thought you were past all that, and here you go again, deeply annoyed at someone else's thoughtlessness and their way of dealing with life. Yet why must you, a bystander, be so affected?

You can take action without anger. You can solve situations without anger. Anger is a signaler. It is not meant to be a ruler.

Anger lets you know there is something that needs tending to. Perhaps you have been sweeping something under the carpet.

You are always the cause of your own anger. It is your frustration after all.

Do not think that I am saying anger is not worthy. Anger serves its purpose of awakening you. But anger is not to live by.

Anger is frustrated control. Have not control or need to control, and you will have not anger.

When you turn up the flame under the kettle, it will boil. It will boil over. You try to contain it. But the boiling over came from your need to control passages and outcomes. What would you expect when you turn up the flame?

No one fools you. You fool yourself.

If you did not fool yourself, where would be your cause of anger?

When you are angry, you are trying to control. Someone didn't do what you thought they should, and now you take affront. Who are you to take affront? Who are you to supervise your brother? Over whom exactly do you think you rule? Rule yourself, beloved.

When you are certain you know exactly what and how someone should do things, you are wise to keep your advice to yourself. Who asked you? I didn't.