Heavenletters

Usually unhappiness starts with a question: «Why things are so difficult? Why doesn't it work? Why is my life a big no no? Why did I loose my job? Why is my relation nil? Nobody chooses for us. Their is a paradox here: one must discover that he/she likes the idea or the feeling of saying that things don't work, that it is a nil relation. Then one can put responsibility on someone's else shoulders, and does not have to take that responsibility. That is one answer and that is what's happening so often. One maintains himself in the relation, because or not because he does not have money; he stays in this relation because he is a victim and he likes it. But one day he might get tired of that. We could call that the "pleasure of unhappiness".

Unhappiness is also related to the idea of Having/not Having and of course of comparing, evaluating and judging. It always comes from the outside. Happiness can circumstancially come from outside (as an habit like unhappiness) but basically happiness is a state of Being and not a state of having/not having.

Very often, loosing a job, even though it seems like an apparent loss, gives a new opportunity to enjoy life, to see things differently, gives time to rebuild oneself, take a beneficient new breathe. It calls for inner creative ressources rather than relying on the "System".

Human kind is afraid of tomorrow. It needs security, repetition, but a security that relies only on anxiety and on external habits. Comfort is just another word for secure investment, minimal benefit but also minimal risk and maximum boredom. What's a creator' life without so called risk? "Everybody would want to be in 'a great artist's shoes". But does one want to take the risk that comes with it? Happiness is a constant creation and re-creation. It relies on an inner sense of Security. We already are Happiness in the Creation of God, so we don't need to look for it outside. And happiness doesn't need to be fireworks: «You don't have to be overjoyed in order to be happy. Plain old steady happiness is good enough. It is very good indeed.» (I absolutely love those two stressed sentences, Gloria!)